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On the Shutting Off the Energy Conduit

A Randy Gage retweet this morning got me thinking about how we deal with setbacks in our lives.  Here's the Tweet:
RT @markshaw: Totally agree: When things go wrong look in the mirror, not out of the window thanks @jasoncobine
Let's look at how we deal with the setbacks in our lives.  It's very easy, and even a little comforting to some people, to be able to look at a setback and find other people to blame.  And it may be that other people took a role in helping that setback happen to you.  No matter how hard we try to be conduits for positive energy and bring good things to everyone around us, there are some people whose defenses simply can't be overcome with what is good.

Finding fault with other people around us affects our prosperity momentum in a number of ways that I'm going to call the Energy Conduit.  Let's go through what your mind feels when you blame someone else.

1.  First, we get angry and seethe with rage for a bit.  Getting angry damages your control over your emotional energy, which is a major part of the personality (along with mind and body energy).  The energy that you've been generating for increasing your prosperity is funneled toward someone who doesn't deserve it.  The Energy Conduit starts here as your positive energy is being sucked out of you.  Your heart's beating a million miles a minute, isn't it?  And maybe your face is getting red.  Think of those as indications that your energy is pouring out of you.

2.  Second, we calm down a bit, and start going over in our mind how we've been wronged  Perhaps we brood a bit.  The Energy Conduit increases as the energy continues to flow out of us.  It's like we've created a conduit straight into that person who's wronged you and the energy continues to flow to them.  Even if we're outwardly calm and looking at the situation in a way that feels rational, we've still got that negative connection to the person and situation and we're still focusing energy in a negative manner.  Think of how being angry wears you out once you've calmed - there's the loss of energy.

3.  Third, we try to go on about our day.  But the thought of that and their actions against us just keep popping back into our minds.  That conduit is still there.  The energy's not flowing as quickly as it was, but every once in a while it gurgles out and continues to power that other person.  Think of people who know how to "push your buttons."  They get something out of doing that, or they wouldn't be doing it to you.  That something is your energy flowing into them.  

So what's the answer?  The answer is, as the tweet above says, to look in the mirror instead of out the window.  Instead of blaming the other person and concentrating on how they've wronged you, look into the mirror and think of what actions you can take to fix the situation.  The blame isn't on the other person, in fact there is no blame.  You created the energy conduit.  There's just a situation that needs to be fixed for your prosperity energy to continue to build.

Our minds suck emotions and information into our subconscious constantly, and we need to be on our guard not to let the negative things in - those negative thoughts are what create that conduit.

I like to think visually, so what I try to do is imagine that my anger is a hose that travels between me and that other person.  Now imagine that the hose is spraying out of control and you're losing water rapidly.  You could run around like a crazy man and try to turn off the hose from the source, but that's going to take too long and the hose is sitting  right in front of you.  What's the easiest way to stop a hose?  The same thing that every child learns when they're playing with their friends in a sprinkler: grab that hose and bend it in half.  The flow stops.  As you watch the flow suddenly cease from pouring out the other end of the hose, you simultaneously end the flow of energy from you to the other end of that hose.

Now that your energy is safe, you have time to sit back and think about the situation without emotion.  And in examining it, don't even think about the people who caused it.  Instead, the question to ask is "What can I do to improve this situation?"  You're not giving energy away with that because there's no mention of anyone or anything but you.   There's no judgement about whether the situation is good or bad, it simply is. Looking to improve the situation means you're learning from it and how you can make changes to avoid it in the future.

And every time you start to feel that energy flowing back out of you, reach down, pick up that hose, and bend it.  And if it amuses you to do so, think of how that other person is going to look a the hose questioningly as the flow suddenly stops coming out of it.  And then, when they least expect it, and when you are ready to do so, you can release that hose so that your positive energy catches them unaware and you can take control of your situation all over again.


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